Thanks to you

Hi there. I just wanted to drop by here as I don’t want to use the discussion forums, I hope you don’t mind me writing here.

I was horrified to see what happened to John Bourn and am so so sorry for your loss.

I wanted to say thanks to you for the work you have undertaken when others appear not to care – govts, care systems and charities. I have joined both of the Facebook pages you have launched and have read much of what is there.

My 68 year old, now single, mother with early dementia was being abused – a new man in her life and shortly after his “family” son turned up. Thanks to the information contained here I was ahead of the game and aware of the potential precarious position my mother found herself to be in.

I started to make up an audit trail, checked wills, and hassled the local authorities when I noticed marks on her face. I started turning up – unannounced at various times of the day – calling for a doctor etc – so that the abusers were linked to what was happening to my mother. I got friends to start visiting her again following the recognised isolation techniques you describe in great detail. We recognised immediately what was going on.

The new “family” – gave in and moved off once they knew I knew what they were doing. My mother is safe in her own lovely home with support from services, friends and family. I don’t think she realises what she has narrowly missed.

God bless you for all you have done and long may you continue to deliver the goods. Abuse of any sorts is disgusting and should be recognised as a punishable crime. You helped us to save her. Thank you.

IANB

IANB

Miss you Pops. We have nowhere to lay flowers - so we all went up to your favourite spot - over looking the downs, and placed some flowers and reflected. It is truly a lovely spot and a place which no one spoiled for you. We have nothing save our memories and a few photos. Grandpas candles glowed brightly tonight - as does our love for a much missed Dad, friend and Grandpa.

matthew wallbank

i can not believe it has been a year it seems like it was yestarday that we were at dunsfold wings & weels airshow that was such a great day so was everyday you were with us i can't stop thinking about you and all the great times we all had

IANB

After so many - this is the first fathers day without my Dad. Not quite the same without him. Last Fathers Day - strawberries and cornish clotted cream, happier times and lots of sunshine. I miss him. Happy fathers day Pops.

Angie Bourn

Its a funny old world John, the way things turn out. We have just welcomed one of your favourite gold fish into our pond. The boys have named him "Johnny". It's remarkable after everything that has happend! So John, you will always be with us. xxx

Ian Bourn

To Dave Berry - sorry - your post was lost during a back up. I was great to hear from someone who flew with Dad - and as a co-pilot! Things as you say were desperate. But I was with him when his Britannia model turned up! He opened the box - moved the packing and there it was. I think he said the plane had special markings for him on it. I used to take my kids to see him regularly. He took great pride in showing them the types of plane he used to fly. He, and they, had a lovely hour going over the model with such joy. Thank you for tracking it down for him and giving him a special time with his grand children during those darkest of times. It would be great if you could drop me a line as I would like to try and get a model - as I am not sure if I will ever see the one you got for him again. Drop me a private email admin@johnnybourn.co.uk. Pam said to say "hi" if you passed this way again. Thanks for being a friend to him when he needed it most.

Paul (Bullroot)

losing your Father is one of those things which I can emphasize with. I know you and your Dad were very close and I know how this Christmas time must have felt for you and your family.

I hope you constantly remember the good times with your Dad and that those memories fortify you in the days ahead.

Best wishes,

Your old friend,

Bully

PS: Please feel free to contact me for a chat.

Debbie

Have lovely memories of you last christmas, and the boys with their keyboard. We miss you this year, and have raised our glasses in a toast to you. With love always xx

Jamie wallbank

Merry christmas granps ans a happy new year. We're always thinking of you.